WEEK 5 | Emotions | Contempt & Shame
CONTEMPT & SHAME
Rejecting Love/intimacy
Contempt (Google’s definition):
1) The feeling that a person or a thing is beneath consideration, worthless, or deserving scorn.
2) Disregard for something that should be taken into account.
3) The offense of being disobedient to or disrespectful of a court of law and its officers.
Contempt (Tim’s/Allender's definition):
1) A reaction to affection of bitterness in attempt to avoid future hurt.
2) An attempt to protect yourself through mocking the affection giver.
Psalm 22:6-8
6 But I am a worm and not a man,
scorned by mankind and despised by the people.
7 All who see me mock me;
they make mouths at me; they wag their heads;
8 “He trusts in the Lord; let him deliver him;
let him rescue him, for he delights in him!”
WHAT DOES CONTEMPT LOOK LIKE?
2 Corinthians 11:30
30 If I must boast, I will boast of the things that show my weakness.
Shame (Google’s definition):
A painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior.
Shame (Tim’s/Allender’s definition):
Feeling exposed as ugly (or useless) beyond words.
An escape from reality through dissociation
Romans 2:1-4
1 You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone else, for at whatever point you judge another, you are condemning yourself, because you who pass judgment do the same things. 2 Now we know that God’s judgment against those who do such things is based on truth. 3 So when you, a mere human being, pass judgment on them and yet do the same things, do you think you will escape God’s judgment? 4 Or do you show contempt for the riches of his kindness, forbearance and patience, not realizing that God’s kindness is intended to lead you to repentance?
